I think not. It's popularly know that to achieve something, you must give up something either small or big, of which happiness isn't an exception.
Experiencing true happiness comes with a tag. It comes with a battle for freedom.
Freedom from shame, anxiety, low self-esteem, depression, fear of the unknown, free from the memories of the past that wont stop haunting you, freedom from peer pressure, and mostly fighting to love and accept yourself.
You have to fight your demons, no matter how big or small and defeat them.
My late grandfather was blind for over ten years, yet i do not know anyone more cheerful and funny like him.
That happy cancer patient on his death bed has a million and one reasons to be sad and moody but chose to be happy instead.
Beautiful Sarah Bernhardt who dropped from fame to poverty was still happy even when she was being wheeled to the theater to have her leg amputated
You think it's easy to live in darkness? You think it is easy to have a leg amputated or not to be faced with the probability of dying anytime? You would think it is easy to just accept all these, to br broken and shattered, but it isn't!
These people paid heavily for the happy face you see every time, these people accepted the inevitable, they accepted their problems and decided to be happy.
They fought real wars in their mind for that genuine smile you see.
To be truly happy, you have to fight some things and when it looks like it can't be conquered, you accept the inevitable.
You just have to accept what Epicetus told the romans centuries ago, he said: "the only one way to happiness is to chase worrying about things beyond the power of your will".
Accepting the inevitable is harder than you think, you have to consciously train your mind to believe you're beautiful, you have to train your mind to accept your flaws. you have to train your mind to know that you're unique....... The cost of happiness goes on and on.
As a friend once said, "happiness comes with a price tag, if you're smiling, you already paid for it in the past". I couldn't agree more!
I hope you're able to conquer everything threatening your happiness and really really be happy!
I fully agree with you on that.
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